I just want to say that I didn't have my first exclusive relationship until I was 24 and in Graduate school...since then I've had 2 more and I'm single again. Just don't rush into something wrong because you are in a hurry...look at the divorce rate.

ummmmm hey there....young one!! you see how everyone gets all rowdy and keeps mentioning your age because you are already looking for Mr. Right? haha I wont lie to you, I remember my plan when i first got to college...I thought I would go in to this christian college, meet a Godly man and get married by 21 and live happily ever after!!.....I am 25 now and have dated a couple of guys; some real horrible, some were great....but I would like that companion...single is an important part of your life...you learn those little things you never got the chance to confront about yourself...I was in a relationship for two years about 3 months ago...it had more downs than ups but I was trying so hard to make it work because I did not want to deal with singleness again..I didnt wanna have to try again to go and see other people....the past couple of months havent been the best because of the loss of the relationship but there is a freedom about it...defining myself, my values, my spirituality, my thoughts....all that applies to the person you are contributing to the next relationship you will have....so when Mr. right is no where to be see, there is you....you can see yourself in full bloom and then he will notice you from afar...you wont have to make a move...just trust your gut!!!!! Keep that love alive inside!! it's coming!!

ummm, when do you have time for a relationship, between school and work? how much time's left to give towards a relationship? it sounds like having a relationship is something you believe you must have but don't have time to have. something in your life will suffer and it'll be one of the three. were you in a relationship before or married already? what are you out to prove to yourself or someone else? it sounds like you need someone older? you seem mature for your age.are you avoiding something? what's with the rush when your life is full to the max already? are you willing to sacrafice one for the other or not? if a stranger can't understand someone so young being in such a hurry perhaps you need to ask yourself alot of questions too? finding the right guy isn't a pop quiz. as a teacher, you know the purpose of a pop quiz. finding "mr. right", takes time and you need to realize, everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning of a relationship and a person feels they've gotten someone really great; but, find out later rushing into that great relationship revealed a not so great boyfriend or spouse. you need to see him with his family or kids, or meet a ex to see what he's really like. do those things and you could end up with a really neat guy that treats people well and has nothing to hide. warning signs: a guy that hates his mother or ex. a guy who's done time. a guy who drops plans all the time. a guy who pushes for intamacy or control. hope this helps. Marey

I know how you feel... I am in the same boat, but as monotonous as it sounds, don't settle for just anyone or give up hope. Most people our age are immature and still trying to figure themselves out. Its difficult to find someone on the same page you are *and* around the same age you are. It sounds like you have your life together, as much as you and I both don't want to hear it, good things come to those who wait.

Hi Sherla-I'm 54. Honestly, believe me, if you settle down when you are 22 you will change soooooo much that when you are 35 you will look at that guy you married whom you used to love and ask yourself who is that man. PLEASE wait until you are around 28-32 to take such a major, life altering step. I realize this is just a different version of what u keep hearing but you know why you keep hearing it? Cause it's true. Marry in haste, repent in leisure!!! best wishes, siren