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40 Something Will someone please tell those kids in the thirty somethings group to stop partying and to please quiet down? Thank you! :P

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Why do men claim they re "fit" when by their pictures they are clearly not! I am a personal trainer and have known many bodybuilders so let me tell you 5'11" and 235lbs is not fit unless you are about 4% body fat...(I had one guy describe himself as a slim 235 and 5'11"). Also, why would a guy say he only smokes about once year--then post a picture of himself...smoking!!! I've tried to be as straight-up and honest as I possibly could, but I get tons of matches who clearly have not been...
- July 7th, 2009, 01:02 pm
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i've always wondered this about being "physically fit" myself.

most people assume that if they're skinny, then they're fit.

i've always thought that being "fit" meant that one could run 5 miles, do 100 push ups etc regardless of whether one is skinny or fat
- July 9th, 2009, 09:48 am
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true that being fit doesn't just mean you're thin...many thin people are not fit...but I'd really like to see someone 50 lbs overweight run 5 miles or do 50 push-ups...
- July 9th, 2009, 07:25 pm
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I'm skin and bones. I don't claim to be "fit" in the sense of being muscular, but I'm stronger than I look and pleased to say I can't pinch more than an inch.

What are the official criteria used by trainers to gauge one's fitness anyway?
- July 12th, 2009, 08:21 am
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Why does it always have to be about the GUYS? Its freekin girls too! I have seen low light pics, someone elses pic! All kinds of lies and cheats with pics and descriptions! From women! So dont think guys are the only posers out there!That would be a lie!
- July 13th, 2009, 12:14 pm
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Here is a funny/sad one! One of my matches uses a real name--so today I googled him.. He died on March27,2009---his obit said that he is survived by his wife, xxxx and his two children! How is THAT for a deceitful bio!
But that explains why he never responded....: /
- July 13th, 2009, 12:47 pm
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to Stevereno: It's not always about the guys...I agree that unfortunatly girls are often liars too....but I don't have any experience with that, so I didn't post about that (duh!!). Also, look around on this sight...most of the articles are about all the mistakes women make ("5 mistakes women make," "What she did wrong," "why he didn't call back," ) and on and on and on...as if the guys get to make all the rules and women just have to learn how to follow them...hmmmmmm
- July 16th, 2009, 03:34 pm
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I'm not on eH, but on Match I list my body type as average because I figure slender or fit means visible ab muscles and/or no little belly "pudge". Even though I walk 10 or 15 miles a day out in the heat for work and climb up block walls every day, I eat a lot of crap so I'm not "fit" or "slender". If I lost 15 pounds and gained some abs... yeah, maybe I could say that. But not now.

But the thing is, I would much rather meet a guy for a first date and have him tell me "You should say you are slender!" than list myself as slender and have him thinking I'm not. And I can't guarantee I will always be this weight, so if being thin is that big of a deal, I'd rather know now anyway.

Oh, and both genders fudge on this (and age). Definitely.
- July 16th, 2009, 05:22 pm
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LanaT wrote :
Here is a funny/sad one! One of my matches uses a real name--so today I googled him.. He died on March27,2009---his obit said that he is survived by his wife, xxxx and his two children! How is THAT for a deceitful bio!
But that explains why he never responded....: /

His wife probably killed him for cheating......

Sorry, I was trying to be funny, but regardless it is sad he died and left a wife and children even if he was a cheater.
- July 22nd, 2009, 07:44 pm
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I wish them lying about whether or not they are fit was my biggest problem. LOL
The man that I ended up relaxing a few of the things I would normally demand from a man I met in the real world was a lot shorter than his profile (he claimed 5'10 but I looked at him eye to eye and I'm 5'6 on a good day without heels). I figured I got to know him as a person and that wasn't as important but it says a lot about someone's character if they lie about something like that (that you'll eventually find out about). I said from day one I had a lot of junk in my trunk but I figure I could get rid of the junk but he can't magically grow at least four inches.
- July 24th, 2009, 08:59 pm
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