Hi and thank you in advance! I have gotten some strange matches but one in particular I need some advice on. I've gotten through guided communication with him (he preferred fast track) and at the end of his second questions he typed that he was looking for someone to show him around my city. In open communication I asked him to clarify and he said that he is touring the US and will be coming to my city this weekend and staying for 1 week. He is looking for someone to show him the sights and give him a perspective of what it's like to live here.

I'm having a hard time understanding why a person would take the personality test and fill out their profile (his profile is quite normal, completely filled out with detailed answers and correct english) just to meet someone to be their tour guide. And he answered my 2nd questions, only mentioning the touring bit at the end of the last one, and then sent me 3 questions for me to answer. His profile says he's currently in a city in Florida by way of Atlanta (which makes no sense!) but he let it slip that he was from South Africa and "coming to the US to tour". He also mentioned that he has a green card.

Anyhoo... I am apprehensive that it is all so sudden. I mean he's coming to my city in two days, we were just matched on Oct 30. And I don't understand why someone would use a dating site to find someone to show him around and keep him company. Any opinions on what exactly he is doing? I want to refer him to a travel agency but don't want to seem rude!

I see red flags all over this. If someone is just passing through, they're not looking for a hamonious match (which is what I assume you are on this site for). What's the point in continuing a match if they're here today and gone tomorrow. If they're just wandering the country, there are probably some stability issues and this person should be avoided in order to keep your heart and person safe. I would report this person to eHarmony as they are using the site for something it was not intended for.

I see four big red flags waving. They each have one letter on them, spelling S-C-A-M.

I would never in a million years meet him, and I wouldn't worry about seeming rude, either.

I hope you haven't given him too much personal information yet.

I would close him, and possibly report his profile to eHarmony as extremely suspicious.

ditto. scam. report him. give him NO INFO about where you live, etc. etc.