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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
If getting no response to your attempt to communicate makes you feel worthless then you are worthless. If on the other hand you have a positive attitude about yourself then you place the negativity on the person that did not return your communication. In other words what my statement said, they missed out on a really great match.
Yes you are correct, I think I am a good person and would be a great match for someone. After about 3 to 4 weeks after I sent questions I closed out 3 of them. I never really thought about before I read some posts on here about single moms, and was thinking no responses because of my kids.
- July 9th, 2009, 08:36 am
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Now-- what about this? I have two matches who have looked at my profile every day, nearly, but have not communicated. Are they non-subscribers, most likely? Stalkers? Or just mocking my photos with their friends and workmates?
- July 9th, 2009, 06:55 pm
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Yes bronte71,
I am actually in the same situation, and I cant figure it out, what is on their mind. First and obviously they are non-payers, but why when the free weekend is on they do not act at all, and after it's off, they continue staring at the profile (and picture if they can see it) as imbeciles or mentally retarded.
Of course the easiest would be to hit the Close button and bury them, but after that unfortunately will be almost hard to impossible to revive them! Some of them look promising to me.
- July 9th, 2009, 07:13 pm
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IMO everyone that is a paid subscriber should have to be verified. Make it free instead of that $6 yearly fee. It kills two birds with one stone, you can tell who is a subscriber, and you can tell they are who they say they are. Verification is as easy as having a CC on file with a billing address that matches the city/zip code used for the profile.
- July 10th, 2009, 01:18 am
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dancer8 wrote :
Thanks for the feedback. I appreciate it. How come you know this? No-one ever told me this. I thought that it was the correct way to get a communication going. Do I just send the first questions straight up with no introduction or request fast track?
Wait! I send icebreakers and nudges and I'm a paying member. I do this because out of 109 matches that have been sent to me only one man responded to me and then we progressed as far as #3.
- July 10th, 2009, 01:34 pm
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passat1 wrote :
Yes bronte71,
I am actually in the same situation, and I cant figure it out, what is on their mind. First and obviously they are non-payers, but why when the free weekend is on they do not act at all, and after it's off, they continue staring at the profile (and picture if they can see it) as imbeciles or mentally retarded.
Of course the easiest would be to hit the Close button and bury them, but after that unfortunately will be almost hard to impossible to revive them! Some of them look promising to me.
It's WEIRD-- I mean, if they had looked at my profile once and weren't interested, I wouldn't think anything about it. But why look at it 4 days in a week? I sent first communication. Are they trying to decide whether to subscribe? These are just rhetorical questions, by the way.
- July 10th, 2009, 10:11 pm
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thedarknite wrote :
I think the best way to know who is a paying member is if they communicate with you within a week of being matched. True paying members check their status regularly. THey will either close you or answer your questions within a week.
If a week goes by then they are non-paying. i dont buy this theory that people might be too busy.
I couldn't agree more!
- July 10th, 2009, 10:24 pm
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