Are you sure you aren't just looking for a reason to sack this guy? When you were helping him with his move, was he calling and asking for your help and/or advice constantly, or were you just providing these things without request? And, do you really think the two situations are the same, and is this really a matter of quid pro quo?

Your instincts might be sound about him and the relationship, but I think the evidence against him as related to the young woman's death is a bit weak. You got the call on a Saturday morning, and he checked in with you on a Monday; OK, where is the problem with that? Unless you've asked him to participate further (i.e., could you pick up my dry cleaning, or I could use some help with feeding the daughter's friends), he probably has no idea what your expectations are in this intensely sad, tragic and emotional situation.

I know from recent, personal experience, when it comes to grief and death, many people simply don't know what to do, and usually wait from some sign or request from those experiencing the loss. (BTW, not many men are going to bring a covered dish over and sit in the living room while the household is in major grief mode.) Thus, for all you know, his past experience in dealing with such a tragic situation is to stay away.

In my opinion, you should focus on yourself and your daughter for the time being and leave any decisions about your relationship with this guy for a future date when the emotional field isn't so crowded with minefields.