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yoga_gal wrote :
It does make it easier! LOL
Nothing worse than giving yourself a hernia trying to lift the box you're standing in, without a handy tree branch and appropriate pulleys of course.
- October 24th, 2009, 05:40 am
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tommyboy047 wrote :
And, you can't just decide to stop loving someone you loved. It takes time to heal from a lost love not a decision. Sure you have to decide to to start the healing process because if you don't get to that point to decide to get over a loved one, you probably never will but you can't just decide and then the feeling is over, nope, no way, no how... grrrruuufffff (OZ).
So true. You have to want to start the healing process, otherwise you will always be in love with the person.
- November 2nd, 2009, 11:45 am
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Love being a decision seems pretty accurate to me.

I can decide to find somoene attractive or not. I can decide if I can live with their annoying laugh or not. I can decide if the financial investment is worth it or not. I can decide if.... (get the point)
- November 2nd, 2009, 06:33 pm
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Love being a decision seems pretty accurate to me.

I can decide to find somoene attractive or not. I can decide if I can live with their annoying laugh or not. I can decide if the financial investment is worth it or not. I can decide if.... (get the point)
Love is in the heart. Love is blind. Decisions are made by the mind and can be 'clouded' by other things that are not part of love. Love is not about money, 'looks', or how someone laughs. You can't decide to love someone or not. If it is meant to happen, it will happen.

Love is the connect between two hearts. That connection is timeless and unbreakable.

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- November 3rd, 2009, 04:33 am
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Love being a decision seems pretty accurate to me.

I can decide to find somoene attractive or not. I can decide if I can live with their annoying laugh or not. I can decide if the financial investment is worth it or not. I can decide if.... (get the point)
You've never been in love.
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:13 am
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Jandris wrote :
So true. You have to want to start the healing process, otherwise you will always be in love with the person.
Jandris wrote :
Love is in the heart. Love is blind. Decisions are made by the mind and can be 'clouded' by other things that are not part of love. Love is not about money, 'looks', or how someone laughs. You can't decide to love someone or not. If it is meant to happen, it will happen.

Love is the connect between two hearts. That connection is timeless and unbreakable.
I have a horrible feeling you're both right. I'm doomed.
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:14 am
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trixie1868 wrote :
I have a horrible feeling you're both right. I'm doomed.
I understand where you are coming from. I have doomed myself from being with 'the one'. A lot of bad decisions, that I made, has made it so. Live, love, learn, and maybe love again....
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:32 am
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trixie1868 wrote :
You've never been in love.

Not true. I have loved in spite of their flaws. I chose to decide to not let undesireable qualities get in the way for the time the relationship lasted. However, ultimately, there was mutual agreement that each other's undesireable qualities were not worth putting up with for potentially 50-some years.

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There's a corner of my heart that still loves some of my old flames. Not that I think of them often ... it's just a general sense of fondness and affection.
- November 3rd, 2009, 08:42 pm
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I can decide to find somoene attractive or not.
Really? I can't. I guess if it works for you....then go for it.
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:15 pm
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