Me and my partner have been togethor about a year and recently got engaged. For the mojority of this time we get on very well, have the usual ups and downs most couples have, and as far as I know the sex has been good.
As with most couples we have touched on ex partners, and what we liked and didnt like about them.
She told me that a couple of her ex partners had been a little 'rough' with her, but that 1 in particular had been good in bed. I wasnt sure what she meant by this and recently(a couple of weeks ago) asked her.
Basically she said that they were 'bigger' than me, and while it hurt at first - she liked it after a while. As soon as she said this I have become very insecure. I believe from all reports I am about average size, and have never had any complaints in that department before. I actually even rang an ex partner and she said no - you annoyed me with other stuff sometimes but in that department you were good.... I am still feeling very inadequate now.
She also told me that one of her friends was dating a guy and he was very big and they had trouble having sex. She made a passing comment at the time - ahh - I dont know what shes worried about - I can handle it.... I didnt think much of this at the time but now I wonder exactly what she did handle..and am I enough for her..??
There are also a couple of things in the bedroom that she has done with 1 atleast one of her ex-partners that she did not do with me in bed until very recently. Why would she do this with them but not me? Is she really into me?
We have talked about this and she tells me that Im good in bed and she likes what we do. But I cant help but wonder if I am really satisfying her when she has been with other guys that are 'bigger' than me, and why she did other things with other guys and not me until very recently.
Yes I feel insecure and stupid, and have actually looked into ways to increase my 'size'. She assures me that I am perfect and not to worry, but I cant help but think about these other guys that were 'good in bed' and 'bigger than me', and think she may be saying im perfect cause she knows she has hurt my feelings and wants me to feel better.
I have never felt so insecure in my life before, and wish I had known some of this stuff a little earlier before we got engaged. i do love her but cant seem to get over this and really want to so we can go ahead and marry as planned.
Im feeling very confused and insecure - what should I do?