Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Relationships Relationships: they have their ups and their downs. Share your joy or weather the storm in this discussion board.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
cp30's Avatar

cp30 is having serious login issues

Power Poster

Join Date: Dec 2007

Posts: 5,702

See profile

she sounds like the drama queeen every older man is trying to avoid....there is a reason...
- July 4th, 2009, 08:41 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#11   Reply With Quote
cp30's Avatar

cp30 is having serious login issues

Power Poster

Join Date: Dec 2007

Posts: 5,702

See profile

on that note. I'd meet with her. Just keep clear boundaries.

Treat each other the way you want to be treated. If she doesn't , recongize it.
- July 4th, 2009, 08:51 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#12   Reply With Quote
lostdude's Avatar

Quick Study

Join Date: Apr 2009

Posts: 67

See profile

i actually don't think i'm going to meet with her. as much as it tears me apart and i REALLY want to see her, i know it'll be too painful. even this brief email exchange with her brought up all kinds of feelings I thought were dead. I can't keep doing it again and again.
- July 4th, 2009, 09:46 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#13   Reply With Quote
BobinFla's Avatar

BobinFla is ready to enjoy his retirement.

Veteran

Join Date: Dec 2008

Posts: 1,601

See profile

In my opinion, there is no need to meet, that you will regret that. I would just go on my way and try to find someone that I can get along with, where a relationship can be without all the drama, life gives us enough drama to start with.
- July 4th, 2009, 07:32 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#14   Reply With Quote
all_seasons's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Mar 2009

Posts: 733

See profile

lostdude wrote :
i actually don't think i'm going to meet with her. as much as it tears me apart and i REALLY want to see her, i know it'll be too painful. even this brief email exchange with her brought up all kinds of feelings I thought were dead. I can't keep doing it again and again.
Wise decision....you're not so lost after all. Everything your described since the ending (since...the cancelled trip) sounds
very unhealthy.
- July 4th, 2009, 10:47 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#15   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

lostdude's Avatar

Quick Study

Join Date: Apr 2009

Posts: 67

See profile

mskam wrote :
I'm super new here and this is my first reply but seriously the above comment is so childish! I had a similar situation, my ex- and I were engaged and he pulled that "no contact" garbage. It is really immature and hurtful to both parties, whether you realize it or not. When you really learn how to love someone, pride and "getting the last laugh" are never considerations.
somehow i missed this post...i guess i was skimming? but anyway...

depending on the situation, i don't think "no contact" is garbage. i have a lot of unsettled emotions for her, and i realize that i will never get closure specifically from her. i tried multiple times...and got hurt multiple times. even now i want to know "why?" but i know i won't get a straight answer. so i think it's best that i just leave it alone and never see her again.
- July 15th, 2009, 09:48 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#16   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“I never realized how hard it is finding a decent match! I've, unfortunately subjected myself to a lot of stuff I didn't need to be subjected to. Like one girl dumping me and then telling me later on ... ” – gothustartus

Join the “Wow...can't buy a break!” discussion

“ Dinner with the child is an acid test, if it goes well then she can relax and things will probably step up a notch, if it doesn't go well then you're out the door because he's her child and you're ... ” – gothustartus

Join the “Making time for her” discussion

“Thank you all very much for your advice and support. It's always uplifting to hear from people that look at inner beauty more so than outer beauty as I have had all sorts of rude comments made behind ... ” – danny273

Join the “Receding Hairline - Female Advice Needed:-)” discussion

“ His lack of consideration does not constitute a reason for the sort of meltdown and temper tantrum you describe. The fact that you even suggest you had a reason concerns me for the health of any ... ” – peg099

Join the “Breaking up” discussion

“That is the funniest thing I've read in a long time!” – lacedwithhope

Join the “I'm so freakin' frustrated!!!” discussion

“When I was in my 20s, I gravitated toward older men because of their maturity. But once I hit my 40s, and looking for a long-term relationship, I started to think more down the road in terms of ... ” – peg099

Join the “Age Differences - Does it Really Matter Anymore?” discussion

“And we have a song written about us. "I wish they all could be California girls" OMG, that brings back memories! Love those Beach Boys. Loved growing up in a little beach town where every ... ” – scarlet13

Join the “Hey Fellas! How'd ya feel about dating 1950s woman?” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 01:56 am.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2010, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0