I have been dating a few girls and I notice if we do not work out after one date the girl says we can be great friends or lets be friends. After some reflection lately I have begun thinking why should I be a friend with a girl and call her a "friend" after one date. In the past I accepted and I have noticed the girls who say this fail to acknowledge me in communication whether by phone or email, while I do try to call and set up maybe a lunch or park meet up with them. Sometimes they call back maybe weeks or days later saying their busy. Aren't we all? One girl who says I'm her friend I have not seen in 2 years yet we live 30 miles apart! I have tried and made time in my schedule, I work 80+ hours. I try to make it happen. My point is for me at least all the friends in my past that I work hard to make and keep through ups and downs mean so much to me, my friends deserve better then for me to just accept a girl's request as a friend. I just feel it cheapens and belittles the friends I do have. To me when a girl says I want to be friends, for me it means I still need to be who I am, not let up by not calling or being there and still invite her out. I have no problem with a girl telling me we are not a match and move on but if you offer a friendship but don't have good intentions for it that to me seems not right. It just seems an easy way out.