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( I hope this does not get post twice. I am new to this site. So bare with me when it comes to figuring this out.)

Recently, I have found my boyfriend's porn collection. Now it does not bother me that fact he watches at porn, but his porn collection the females are overweight by at least 300 pounds. I found this weird and funny because he makes fun of ladies who are overweight. He is so harsh to them, yet he jerks to them. I am so confused.

I am 4'11 and barely 100 pounds. It makes me wonder why is he with me? I believe maybe he is secretly ashamed because his friends would make fun of him. He cares way to much about what people think of him. I hope I am not a cover up, so he can show people that he is "normal." In today's society you have (I'm using that word lightly) to be with skinny girls. I am not saying you cannot be with a big lady, NOTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT. But from friends who are big they say its a lot harder out there to find a mate who will accept their bodies.

So what do you think? Am I being a drama queen? Should I question him about? .__. So CONFUZZZ! lol.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:09 am
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Wow. I am not sure how to best handle this if I were in your shoes. However I will say that before you create a back story for all this talk to him about it. Porn generaly is very distorted and can be very harmfull to relationships. The fact is that you should be enough for him and it likely hurts you to think he isn't satisfied with you.

Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel.

Good luck,
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- November 4th, 2009, 09:16 am
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Well we do not have sex, so i am okay with him to watching porn. He needs to relieves himself. But i did not know what type of porn he watched.
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- November 4th, 2009, 09:43 am
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Hi Moon,

There's another thread all about porn ...
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...ce-please.html

There are men who are attracted to very big women but can't accept that about themselves, or are afraid of other peoples' reactions to it. Yours may be one of those. Especially since you are so opposite of that.

Or it could be just a fantasy.

I would definitely ask him about it. You are not going to be happy if 10 years go by and then you find out he's not really attracted to you. Good luck!
- November 4th, 2009, 09:44 am
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Thanks I hope that thread helps!
- November 4th, 2009, 09:47 am
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I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?
- November 4th, 2009, 07:51 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?
lol!
- November 4th, 2009, 08:00 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?
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- November 5th, 2009, 07:39 am
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?

see thread title...

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- November 5th, 2009, 08:19 am
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