Your Part in the eHarmony Process
Your mate is out there. We know it. The eHarmony process needs your enthusiasm, open mindedness and effort. Learn how to get the most from your eHarmony experience.
by eHarmony Staff
In today’s world of hype and advertised exaggeration, most companies want to make their product sound capable of doing everything. The fictional people in the advertisements smile and tell you how great and wonderful everything is now because they use this toothpaste or that motor oil. Over the years consumer expectations rise, as products improve and upgrades occur. In the personal growth industry, these products seem to continually ask less of you to achieve the amazing results.
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The easy ways for you to look and feel better without much effort on your part are all over late night television. Do you ever just wish people would level with you? Do you ever look at a beautiful model in one of these commercials and want to ask if she used this product to get in shape? It seems like a conspiracy to keep the real path to success hidden while promising dead end, fly-by-night solutions that can’t work.
In a world of false fixes and nonsense solutions, eHarmony is blazing a new path. eHarmony wants to give you the real map to success and it starts with this realization:
eHarmony Isn’t a Magic Box
You don’t put your quarter in, answer a few questions, push a button, and have a spouse pop out. We don’t send you perfect people who have worked out all their problems and challenges. We can’t guarantee that every highly compatible match you receive will flip your chemistry switch and be physically attractive. eHarmony is a real service that matches you with real people. The real truth is: if you’re using eHarmony, we are in a partnership that requires lots of hard work on both sides.
The Work You Have to Do
When you see the muscle-bound guy on television selling the little pills that will help you get his muscles. We all know that he spent endless hours in the gym to look like that. We know that a bodybuilder’s body only comes with lots and lots of hard work. I can promise you that finding a great person with eHarmony is work. It’s work that feels great, because you know that you’re really making progress. Imagine this:
47 comments on
“Your Part in the eHarmony Process”
This is a weak article. It shifts the responsibility from eH to us. Here is the fundamental problem with eH, the matches aren't always "highly compatible". Sometimes they are so phony it's laughable. And if I'm being matched with incompatible people, am I not being matched with highly compatible people? Is this whole thing just random or keyword matching? We'll never know. I've made up my mind but all I can do is cancel and get the word out about my experiences with eH.
- December 21, 2009 09:04 PM
Kate,
I have tweaked those settings until I am blue in the face. Trust me.It is definitely a losing battle, I believe.
The photo of my Cannondale was just of the bike...I was not in it. Was that the issue?
As far as my photos go...I know I am very young looking for almost 47. There have been comments in the past about my photos being old and not up to date (all have been taken within the last year, including the one of me on here). Anyway, I am honestly ready to give up.
- September 10, 2009 07:52 PM
Hi Dancergrrl,
Sorry to hear about your results after a year. I think, actually, that it’s great that you’ve put yourself out there and have been persistent. Just because you haven’t had results doesn’t mean you won’t. It may be one little setting adjustment or one additional photo (I’m curious about the mountain bike photo…there are pretty specific guidelines on posting), or one detail that you change or add to your About Me page.
Have you contacted our Customer Care team? They might have some ideas and insights. Here’s the link: [URL]http://www.help-singles.eharmony.com[/URL]
Here’s to keeping in “the game” (you’re still in if you haven’t been disqualified)!
Wafflehouse – regarding the verbiage on the Personality Profile – remember it’s computer-generated, and not every word will describe you (although it should be extremely close). But regarding the word “Indulgent”, I believe this isn’t the same thing as self-indulgent as much as indulging others. That might make more sense in the context of the other descriptive words.
~Kate
eHarmony Advice Host
- September 10, 2009 03:09 PM
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