What's your Dating IQ?

Good point spider.

I think the problem I have with this article is this:

It is listed as "dating" advice and gives actual "dating" advice. To show some personal relation here, I would've scored extremely high on this test, but it does not mean much of anything so far in my life.

The issue I am having is that this is basically telling you to put yourself second and your partner first, something I have about lived by so far. Something that has caused severe pauses and disruptions in relationships; for even if I did that forever (which I did before I became a little jaded) men and women don't want someone who will give in, who will be "fine" with everything they say. I do not see mention of compromise in here, and that is why it is "dating" advice and not "relationship" advice.

If you want to spend a few weeks dating someone then this will work for you. But if, like me, you want to find someone who you can love and be with for more than 6 months.. Then you can't start out with your heart on your sleeve or your needs being neglected.

And THAT is why I say good point Spider. The ONLY way to have a successful relationship... LIVE IT. Don't get ready for a big acting scene every morning, or tell yourself that your needs don't matter, or plan some grand scheme of how your dreams will work out.. Live life, and make that relationship a big part of it. And in order for that to happen: Sadly most people are going to be subjected to heart ache and loneliness and maybe even some bitterness.. We must be ourselves, but as we interact with more people in our own way we unconsciously modify our behavior, our outlook, our passive and assertive ratio, our reactions.. And even what we like or what we don't..

So go out, live life and take it seriously, and I bet everyone reading this has the skills they need already.. The problem is most likely that we have either met people who don't, people who are not serious about dating, or it was just the wrong time in their/our lives.

Just don't give up, that summarizes this whole, long comment.

All I can say is.......you learn something new everyday.......!!! And sometimes....that can be alot of fun......:-)

What's my dating IQ? i still don't know there was no test, no results. the article pointed out my weakensses..I know I'm terrible at conflict resolution and don't express my displeasure well. Like wounded woman have found fences that keep others out of my personal space leave me safe...and lonely. Took up golf not only because it's fun but i am begining to be able to relate to men in ways I don't feel threateded. The handicapping systems puts us on even footing score wise. and though not actually dating am learing to relate to men in non threatening ways