Dating Tips for the 50+ Crowd

Finding yourself in the dating arena again? Here are some of the best tips from you -- the wise and witty Advice users!

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More and more of us find ourselves back in a dating world that has changed tremendously over the past decade. Even though it seems to be all about Facebook, Tweeting and texting -- some things -- like self respect and values -- are still the same.

Here are some of our favorite tips from the Advice community on dating successfully after age 50.

1. First and foremost, take good care of yourself -- and be patient. The one you are waiting for could be right around the corner.

 

2. No dating anyone you could have given birth to.

 

3. Don't play by those "dang" dating rules.

 

4. Keep yourself busy instead of sitting around and waiting for "the one." In other words, live a full life.

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5. Take things slow and really get to know one another.

 

6. Look for a partner than can be themselves, flaws and all.

 

7. Keep a good sense of humor and be happy -- good energy attracts all sort of wonderful things.

 

8. A little flirting goes a long way!

 

9. Have no expectations. Look at that first date as just an opportunity to get to connect with someone new.

 


10. Don't look at a potential partner as the "end all be all."

 

11. You will be more interesting to a match if you have a diverse range of hobbies -- so get out there and try something new.

What are important lessons learned in your dating experiences? Share them with us here.

Contributors: lacedwithhope, Ciao_eh, TiffanyDiamond, nophotos, D_Lion, legend29

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Trailflower

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J. David's post hits it on the head, although I'm surprised to find out how many of the "applies to under 50, too" rules are simply not known by people who are just re-entering the dating scene in their 50's and older! Hey, we're new at some of this stuff! I, too, find the canned responses of the traditional e-Harmony method very confining...and yet it is a beginning. Just wish there were more initial information to get ahold of.
- February 10, 2010 06:47 PM
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SaltSailor

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I'm new to eH. I'm also excited about the 15+ women I am currently communicating with, some in the canned versions (Must have/Don't wants, etc.) and some in free-form Emails. These posts are a real downer to me. Perhaps I haven't been at it long enough to get that negative. But so far, I like what I see and am enjoying the ride.

- February 08, 2010 10:58 PM
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Gaylesam

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I really agree with the first writer - after a very good marriage (to someone 26 years older than myself) I became a widow in 2007. Late in 2008 I wondered what the universe looked like for someone at my age (52 then) and eHarmony was recommended by many folks I knew.

What a sad disappointment, despite all the commercials, what I found was a huge array of men who were looking for a cute woman 10+ years younger and had no idea what to do with a grown up, secure, professional woman. The responses ranged from guys who lived and breathed working out trying to avoid looking/being older and men who were clearly wanting sex, and not afraid to make that clear.

I met my husband by a casual coincidence, and I have faith that I'll find someone interesting through regular life - not by this artificial system. If they allowed more open communication, not the tightly scripted boxed exchanges - people might act like people, not as I've found, people seeking defined boxed types of human beings.

With hope, I still keep my profile updated here, even if I no longer actively maintain a membership.

Good luck everyone

- February 07, 2010 12:52 PM
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