4 Tips for Re-Entering the Dating Scene

Dating for the second time around doesn't have to be daunting. Find out how the game has changed and the secrets to success.


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If it's been a while since your last foray on the dating scene, don't panic. From joining online dating sites to taking classes in a new skill, there's plenty you can do to gently ease your way back out there. Follow these easy tips.

1. Go online
Don't fancy hanging out in bars? These days you can find yourself a date without leaving the comfort of your home. Mintel estimates that 5.2 million people in the UK are using online dating sites and, as thousands can testify, it really is possible to find love online. Plus, it takes the embarrassment out of asking someone out on a date. After all, they wouldn't be on an online dating site if they weren't keen to meet someone new.
 
2. Change your Routine
If you've been living alone for a while it's easy to get stuck in a rut, especially if the thought of socialising sends shivers down your spine. See your single status as a chance for new experiences and discovery. Join clubs, go on group excursions and learn new skills and you'll meet people with ease.

3. Prepare for potential challenges
Be aware that not all dating experiences will be blissful. "I had been divorced 8 years and said I would never marry again," says Loretta who met her husband Mike on eHarmony. "After being on eHarmony for 6 months and not meeting anyone I wanted to date I was ready to give up! In December I received an email of a match, and when I opened it, Mikes profile just fit for me." They married in 2008.

Dating takes a little effort and patience. If you're struggling, don't be afraid to take time out to work on your self-esteem and reassess what you're looking for. You need to be optimistic and upbeat to find love.

4. Enjoy yourself!
While re-entering the dating scene might fill you with dread at first, it's important to relax and enjoy new experiences. Don't fixate on finding love straight away. Instead, see online dating sites as your chance to expand your circle of friends, not just find a partner. Be open-minded and you never know what might happen!

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Not surprised that #1 would be to 'Go online' from E-harmony ... [IMG]http://advice-static.eharmony.com/library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/IMG]
OK so you like to hang out in bars :rolleyes: Where else other than online do you have the opportunity to be introduced to people that are not at the same place that you are and not at the same time you are there?
- February 06, 2010 08:19 AM

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#1 - Get Drunk!. JOKING!!! Not a good tip at all. Just having some fun. How about: #2 - Figure out beforehand what you want to write in your profile if doing the online dating thing. Do a few practice write ups before posting. Really figure out what you are looking for and what you want to say this time around.
- February 06, 2010 08:15 AM

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Not surprised that #1 would be to 'Go online' from E-harmony ... Wink

- February 06, 2010 07:59 AM


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